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There are many false myths circulating about Feng Shui; so if hearing about it sparks a mix of curiosity and skepticism, know that this is completely normal.

Feng Shui is an ancient, deep, and fascinating discipline.

And yet, in recent years, it has often been oversimplified, misinterpreted, and reshaped through a Western lens—reduced to a rigid list of rules or a collection of “magical” objects to place here and there.

The result?

A discipline that was born to help you feel better in your home ends up creating confusion, rigidity, or even anxiety.

In reality, Feng Shui is the study of places and people.

It’s a way of inhabiting space that is coherent with who we are.

In today’s article, I aim to bring clarity by guiding you through the most common Feng Shui myths, explaining why they don’t work—and, most importantly, what does work when it comes to creating spaces that support you, nourish you, and truly reflect who you are.

– Myth #1: Feng Shui is a rigid set of rules you must follow exactly

“You can’t do that.”

“That brings negative energy.”

“That’s always wrong.”

Unfortunately, these phrases are very common—and understandably make Feng Shui feel heavy, complicated, or even punitive.

They turn a tool for harmony into a test you feel you have to pass.

And they make people feel “wrong” for living in real homes, with real limits, compromises, and practical choices.

The truth is that Feng Shui is not a universal rulebook that applies to everyone in the same way.

It’s a method of observation and listening—and above all, it is deeply personalized.

Every home is different.

But even more importantly, every person is different, with their own energy, history, and life phase.

The same house will be arranged very differently depending on who lives there—even when using Feng Shui—because it’s not the walls that lead the way, but the person.

In this sense, I find a strong affinity with Reiki: energy flows where it’s needed, not where a manual says it “should” go.

Feng Shui helps you understand what’s happening in a space and how that space affects you.

It’s not about telling you what’s “wrong.”

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– Myth #2: If your bed isn’t perfectly oriented, you won’t sleep well

This myth often goes hand in hand with the idea that “the bed must have the headboard facing North,” and it’s one of the beliefs that creates the most anxiety.

As mentioned earlier, even the ideal position of a bed depends on the person and on how their energy interacts with the energy of the home.

The same person might have one ideal orientation in one house, and a completely different one in another.

Without going into technical details, this rule—when taken out of context—becomes an unnecessary dogma that ignores the reality of how we actually live.

Not every bedroom allows for the “ideal” position.

There are windows, doors, walls, small spaces, and practical needs to consider.

True Feng Shui is flexible.

It adapts to reality instead of forcing it.

What matters most is how you feel in that spot.

If you feel relaxed, protected, and comfortable, then it works—even if it’s not “perfect.”

And even when the only possible position creates some discomfort, know that there are many ways to harmonize the space using colors, materials, and objects.

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– Myth #3: Mirrors are almost always negative

“No mirrors in the entryway—and definitely none in the bedroom!”

I’ve heard this so many times.

Once again, without context, this idea becomes misleading.

In Feng Shui, mirrors don’t have a moral value.

They’re not “good” or “bad.”

Mirrors amplify what they reflect.

So the right question isn’t: Is the mirror okay or not?

It’s: What does it reflect? How does it make you feel?

Does it increase light and openness—or disturbance and confusion?

A mirror reflecting natural light or an orderly space can be a great ally.

One that makes you uncomfortable or reflects chaos isn’t right for that spot.

When it comes specifically to bedrooms and entryways, a few simple guidelines help:

  • In the bedroom, mirrors are fine, but they shouldn’t reflect people while they sleep, as energy keeps bouncing back and forth and may disturb rest.
  • In the entryway, a mirror shouldn’t face the door directly, or the energy will bounce back out instead of entering.

That said, in your bedroom, if you can’t change the mirror’s position and you sleep well anyway, there’s no problem.

If you don’t sleep well, you can always partially cover it so it doesn’t reflect you while lying down.

In the entryway, if there’s no alternative position, try not to open the door completely.

This way, energy enters at an angle and is reflected into the rest of the space.

(If you like, here I’m talking about an entryway with Feng Shui)

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– Myth #4: If you can’t apply everything, then Feng Shui is useless

This myth is subtle but very common.

“If I can’t do it properly, then there’s no point in doing it at all.”

This mindset frames Feng Shui as something elitist—accessible only to those who can change everything.

In reality, Feng Shui works especially in small steps.

Sometimes it’s enough to change one thing: a color, the position of an element, a more conscious choice, or a different quality of attention to a space you use every day.

You don’t need to do everything at once.

What matters is starting.

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– Myth #5: Feng Shui is only symbolic or “spiritual”

When people think about Feng Shui, they often imagine symbolic objects placed around the house to attract luck or love.

But placing a golden turtle, a crystal, or some exotic symbol won’t magically bring abundance, love, or fortune.

Feng Shui is not magic, and it’s not superstition.

Objects can act as activators—but only within the right context.

You can place a Pachira aquatica (also known as the money tree), but it won’t help if your home is cluttered, doesn’t reflect who you are, and doesn’t allow you to recharge your energy.

Feng Shui works first and foremost with very practical elements:

  • light
  • furniture layout
  • order
  • movement flow
  • spatial perception

It’s deeply connected to interior design and to how the body and mind respond to environments.

The symbolic layer, when present, comes later—to amplify intention—only after the space has been cleared and allowed to breathe.

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– Myth #6: Feng Shui is just about aesthetics

This myth is closely related to the previous point: many people believe that Feng Shui is an Eastern interior design.

And yes, aesthetics matter.

Beauty is energy, and a harmonious environment feels welcoming and warm.

But Feng Shui goes beyond the surface.

It’s about how you feel when you enter a room.

About your breath, your vitality, your ability to rest, create, and love.

Be mindful of “magazine-perfect” rooms: they may be beautiful, but energetically useless if they don’t make you feel good.

Feng Shui doesn’t stop at what you see—it goes deeper, into what you perceive.

That’s why you don’t need a perfect home.

You need a lived-in home—one that’s listened to, observed with fresh eyes, and felt with the heart.

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– Myth #7: You only need to apply the Bagua you find online

The Bagua is an octagonal energy map where each section represents an area of life: prosperity, recognition, love, creativity, leadership, life purpose, rest, and roots.

When placed over a floor plan—or even just a room—it helps assess balance, support weaker areas, soften overly strong ones, and strengthen what you need most in a specific life phase.

For this reason, the Bagua is a powerful tool—but also one of the most misunderstood and oversimplified.

Many websites offer simplified versions disconnected from traditional practice, leading people to apply generic maps to their homes.

There are also key factors to consider when placing the Bagua correctly, such as the actual entrance and the energetic center of the home, which isn’t always obvious.

Ignoring these aspects can activate the wrong areas altogether.

It’s a bit like trying to navigate a city using a map of a different city.

It simply doesn’t work.

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– Myth #8: Feng Shui is just a trend

With the growing popularity of Eastern practices in the West, Feng Shui people often treat Feng Shui as a mere trend.

This mindset reduces a millennia-old body of knowledge to a decorative or fashionable phenomenon.

The truth is that Feng Shui is over 5,000 years old.

It has survived because it works—it supports life, energy, and our relationship with space.

It’s not magical.

It’s deeply human.

Yes, it developed within a different culture and building tradition, but with the right awareness, we can apply it to our homes as well.

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– What Really Works in Feng Shui

  • Awareness: observing how you live in your spaces
  • Qi flow: creating movement, openness, and breath
  • Intention: bringing presence to your choices
  • Harmony between you and your home: there is no Feng Shui without listening
  • Energetic connection: as in Reiki, energy follows your vibration

Feng Shui isn’t a set of rules.

It’s a journey.

A way of coming home—inside and out.

It’s a tool that helps you create spaces that support your everyday life.

Spaces that make you feel more centered, calmer, and truly at home.

This principle is always true—even in imperfect homes.

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– A Final Thought

When we let go of myths, Feng Shui returns to what it has always been:

a practice that connects energy, space, and life.

A home isn’t just a container—it’s an energetic field that accompanies, supports, and reflects you.

When this field is in harmony, everything else begins to flow.

If you feel your home could support you better, but don’t know where to start, remember: you don’t need a revolution.

The right home isn’t the perfect one.

It’s the one that takes care of you.

Sometimes, all it takes is a shift in perspective.

If you’d like, we can do that together.

Write to me—I’d be honored to guide you on this journey.

Little Feng Shui tips to use at home.

When we step into a home, we don’t just see walls, furniture, and objects.

We immediately sense an atmosphere—an invisible energy that can either soothe us or make us feel tense.

That feeling isn’t random: it depends on how spaces are arranged, the colors, the lighting, and even the way we use each room every day.

Feng Shui, an ancient Chinese practice, teaches us how to recognize and harmonize these flows of energy.

It’s not about drastic makeovers or rigid rules, but about learning to listen to our spaces and transform them into places that truly support those who live there.

Today, I’d like to guide you on a little journey through your home, room by room, to discover how Feng Shui can make it not only more beautiful but also more welcoming and balanced.

– The entryway: the door of energy

Imagine the entryway as your home’s mouth: it’s where all the energy flows in.

That’s why it’s so important to keep it well-maintained and free of obstacles.

A clean, uncluttered, and bright space allows Chi—the vital energy—to flow without blockages.

If shoes, coats, or delivery boxes pile up by the door, the first impression will be one of chaos and heaviness.

On the other hand, a clear and well-lit entryway greets you with a sense of lightness.

A rug or doormat is more than just practical—it’s a symbolic gesture of welcome, inviting positive energy to flow in.

But be mindful with mirrors: placed directly opposite the door, they can “bounce” the energy back out.

Instead, place them to the side, where they can reflect light without interrupting the flow.

(If you like, you can find more tips for a perfect Feng Shui entryway here!)

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– The living room: a space for connection

From the moment you sit on the sofa, the living room reveals how you connect with others.

It’s where we spend time with family, welcome friends, and relax.

One key detail is the seating arrangement: ideally, create a circle or a “U” shape that encourages conversation and allows you to have the door in sight, even from the side.

Sitting with your back to the entrance can unconsciously trigger a feeling of vulnerability.

Feng Shui encourages us to balance materials: warm surfaces, like wood and soft fabrics, with cooler ones, like glass or metal, to help create harmony.

And don’t forget live plants—they don’t just decorate, they purify the air and bring vitality.

Finally, be mindful of sharp furniture edges.

Sharp edges pointing toward where people sit can create tension (often called “poison arrows”).

If replacing furniture isn’t an option, soften those corners with a plant, a fabric lampshade, or even a strategically placed cushion.

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– The kitchen: the heart of the home

The kitchen is where we express daily care most clearly.

It’s where we prepare food, a symbol of nourishment and prosperity.

In Feng Shui, water elements (such as sinks and dishwashers) and fire elements (like stoves and ovens) should be far apart, as they create conflict.

If you can’t separate them, introduce an earth element, a ceramic countertop, a wooden cutting board, or even a decorative object that symbolically acts as a buffer.

Cleanliness and order are essential.

Clear counters and well-maintained burners attract positive energy and abundance, while clutter and mess drain your energy.

Lighting and color also play a considerable role: choose warm tones that encourage conviviality, and use natural light or warm artificial light to make the space inviting.

A window, if you have one, is not just a source of air and light—it’s also a bridge to the outside world.

(credits: @mcgregorhomes; moovdesign.it)

– The bedroom: a refuge for rest

If the living room is about socializing, the bedroom is a sanctuary of intimacy and rest.

Your bed should have its headboard against a solid wall for a sense of security, and a view of the door without being directly in line with it.

This setup helps you feel both protected and in control of the space.

Keep mirrors away from directly facing the bed, since their reflections can interfere with restful sleep.

Place them where they don’t interfere with the sleeping area.

Choose soft colors and natural materials to create a serene atmosphere, and avoid keeping electronic devices near the bed – they generate both energetic and mental disturbances.

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– The bathroom: balancing water with lightness

From a Feng Shui perspective, the bathroom can be a weak point, since water—its dominant element—symbolically carries energy away.

A simple daily habit—closing the toilet lid—helps keep Chi, or vital energy, from escaping.

Keep the bathroom door closed as well; this helps prevent energy from draining away.

Introduce wooden elements—a small cabinet, a shelf, or even just an accessory—to balance excess water with stability and warmth.

Ventilation and lighting are also crucial.

Fresh air and natural light keep the energy clean and uplifting, making the bathroom a space of well-being rather than just a utility place.

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– The workspace: focus and creativity

An increasing number of homes feature a study or small office, ideal for those working remotely.

This space needs a different type of energy: focused, clear, and productive.

Place the desk in a “command position”—where you can see the door without being directly in line with it.

This arrangement boosts your sense of control and security.

Visual order is key: a cluttered desk brings distraction and mental fog, while a tidy one supports focus!

Adding a plant is always a good idea—it not only oxygenates but also enhances vitality and creativity.

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– The five elements: the key to balance

At the core of Feng Shui are the five elements: Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water.

Each represents specific qualities:

Wood: growth, creativity, renewal.

Fire: energy, passion, movement.

Earth: stability, nourishment, grounding.

Metal: order, clarity, structure.

Water: flow, introspection, freshness.

Every room should include all five elements, though in different proportions depending on its purpose.

A bedroom that feels “too cold” might need more wood or earth.

A chaotic kitchen can regain balance with a touch of metal or water.

The art of Feng Shui lies in observing and balancing: if a space feels oppressive, draining, or messy, it often means one element is too dominant—or missing entirely.

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In conclusion

When we begin to see our homes through the lens of Feng Shui, we realize that every choice—color, furniture placement, even the habit of tidying up—goes beyond aesthetics.

It reflects our inner world.

A home that breathes, full of light and harmony, helps us regain balance, strength, and serenity.

Likewise, clutter, sharp contrasts, or neglected spaces often mirror our inner struggles.

Taking care of our home, then, means taking care of ourselves.

It is an ongoing dialogue between space and person—a path to well-being built one small gesture at a time: opening a window, choosing a calming color, clearing the entryway.

That is the essence of the book I co-wrote with Dr. Francesca Basile, “Take care of Your home & Take care of Yourself:” the awareness that caring for our environment can become a powerful tool to restore energy, harmony, and lightness within ourselves.

Applying Feng Shui at home does not mean you have to turn everything upside down.

Simple, deliberate changes are often enough to make your home a place of care and balance.

Your home can become an authentic ally for your daily well-being: every time you walk through the door, the energy welcomes you, supports you, and moves with you.

And if you would like some help along the way, I would be happy to guide you—book a consultation!